Ask Amy: Avoiding The Drama

Today I’m so excited to introduce my friend Amy to you guys! Amy got married just a few years ago, and she is my go to gal for great advice on all topics, but especially wedding planning. I am so excited she has agreed to answer your wedding related questions (and mine!) here on the blog. For her first post, I’ve asked Amy to share some general advice, hope you enjoy it!

If you have a wedding related question you’d like Amy to answer leave it in the comments below, or e-mail it to me using the e-mail button to the right!

Ask Amy

Hindsight is 20/20. Looking back on the wedding planning process I certainly see areas I could have improved upon. I think no matter how hard you try, someone at some point through the process will become offended, dislike a choice you make or create drama for you that you won’t want or need! So here are a few pointers to help you try to avoid the drama!!

First and foremost ask yourself – will this matter five years from now? The decisions in the moment are huge …but down the road will they be? You have two nephews and it’s customary to have only one ring bearer. Would it matter five years from now if you had two? No. So why offend one family or exclude one nephew. You have six friends you want as bridesmaids and your fiancé has five. Do you leave out one friend? No! Make the best of it and one lucky groomsman escorts two ladies. Don’t over think the little things. Saving yourself the drama of an angry friend or an upset family member will help the process run smoother and avoid conflict you won’t have time or energy for!

Communicate, Communicate, Communicate!!! Did I mention communicate? I’ve been in wedding parties where I didn’t know what was expected of me. Talk to your wedding party, your family and your friends. Keep them in the loop. If you are hoping your bridesmaids throw you a bachelorette party, be sure to talk to your maid of honor about it. Don’t assume she knows. Be honest about what you want, what you need help with and what you expect of people. No one can read your mind! And you can’t be mad at someone for not doing something if they didn’t know they were supposed to!

Lastly, understand that although this wedding is the center of your universe – it isn’t for everyone else. They are happy for you, they can’t wait to celebrate with you ….. but it’s not their wedding. So be realistic in what you ask of them. Don’t throw three showers and be upset if someone misses one. Don’t pick out a $500 bridesmaid dress they won’t ever wear again. Try to be cognizant of those around you, understand that although it’s an honor for them to participate it’s also a huge responsibility both time wise and cost wise.

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